Michigan Surrogate Laschell's Side

[laschell]

Dear community,

I am writing this just to "defend" my name. I was a 2x surrogate and I was also an egg donor. This third surrogacy was placed on my heart and so I decided to persue a friendship/family relationship to help this couple become a family.
I am a mother , a wife, a friend , a christian, a daughter, and most of all I am an honest loving person. I'm afraid all who have seen the previous post from "ACE" did not get all of the story, and have prejudged me.
OKAY...

We met online, we spoke for 1yr!!!! and about the anniversary of that year we started our cycling. I got pregnant on the first try with twins. (Mind you we spoke, and emailed a whole year) I told this couple about me and my family as well as some of the past relevant to us doing the surrogacy. I heard all about her supportive family and friends . I heard about her not being able to get pregnant etc..... What she left out is why I had to make this heartbreaking decision....I know most want to know what could possibly make me do this. It could be the past that she left out of her life, her current medical conditions (she knows what they are) and not only that but the total disregard for learning how to take care of children.
So , if I am a bad surrogate because I choose the safety of my surrobabies over my name, then I am a bad surrogate. I have never been so insulted in my life as this family has done to me .
Let me ask everyone these questions:
If you were with a couple and were their surrogate and you told them they need to get the legal paperwork ready so they can take the baby/babies home from the hospital and they didnt, what would you do?
What if YOU had to disrupt your family life and take home babies because the legal work was not done? Just wondering..... (I mean say the social worker at the hospital said you could hand them over to family services instead of taking them home... what would you do?
What would you say if your couple's attorney said to them " just let the surrogate give you the babies out in the parking lot"? Wha?
What if you had surgery to have the baby/babies and 3 days later you had to shop for clothing for the unexpected baby/babies coming home???? again what would you do?
What if you had to take care of them for 3 days while the couple you lovingly created a family for leaves the weekend to go home, not even giving you food, clothing, or even bonding with the baby/babies?
Well what would your reaction be if you said the the couple we can go to court on MONDAY , but wait till we call you then come over (beings you are taking care of the baby/Babies) and the just "pop in at your home"?
Oh , maybe its no big deal get over it right.... okay
So Monday you go to court with the couple and baby/babies, and because the attorney this couple so called hired did not do the adoption paperwork you had to give them " gardianship" instead (mind you 6 days out of major surgery). Your there 3hrs of your day, your husband has to work that day and has only gotten 2hrs of sleep from the night before.
OKAY now the real question, What would you do in this situation and how would you feel?
You go in front of the judge , the judge asks a series of questions to your couple such as: " What medication are you taking for your mental condition"? ** she and her husband tell the judge (This is personal medically and I do not feel comfortable letting people know)HUH??? "What legal convictions do you have ON RECORD"? ***she lists hers ( including cocaine charges) *** he says his*** ..You stand there with your spouse holding a precious lil angel you just delivered and turn to say to him while tearing up "They never told us this".
Judge asks couple if they have ever taken parenting classes and they respond with a NO... But this couple really wants to have children and feels they would be good parents even after waiting as long as they have.
So you get out of court, the mother runs up to you and says "oh , I'm sorry I never told you about my condition, and my past. I'm a new person now and I dont even think that way anymore" Hello.. a YEAR .. this is something to talk about~
I know my heart... I know what I did hurt this family and I am so upset with their deception to me and my family. I would have never ever worked with this couple , or been a surrogate for this couple knowing what I know now. I am devestated that our families were flipped upside down and that their family is now threatening our family. And has gone too far in the threats.
I was not ready for twins, or a singleton I was a surrogate ready to hand the babies over to whom I thought were loving, honest christians. I am not doubting their faith, I am sick as to how they decided they wanted to keep this from me .
Oh ya I forgot would you be upset if during an ultrasound in the 5th month of pregnancy that something could be wrong with one baby and the IF says " Oh , I dont know if I am ready to take care of a handicap child. I am in my 40's and getting too old." HELLO???
Would you talk to your spouse and ask what you would do if the couple decided not to take one but wanted the other? *I would*
What would you do while your couple has the baby/babies??
Do you worry something is wrong?
Do you wonder why the couple only finnished the Homestudy 1month prior to your delivery????
Do you wonder why it took so long?
If you called several agencies in your area and every single one of the adoption agencies said they would not grant this couple adoption rights but somehow they passed this one, would you think about the welfare of the baby/babies?
WOW.. so much more but here's just part of it...So please before everyone makes any decisions about me or my IP's know the facts. I think that they decieved me because they knew that any other surrogate including myself would not work with them knowing the present mental state and criminal state of the couple.
I am only here because I was asked to tell my side of the story. I am finished , If there are any other questions I'd rather speak of this in the media.. I am strong in heart and faith that the laws change to protect us all!!!! I think that IVF laws need to be modified. Everyone should have to take a physical, mental and pscylogical . Also the states which do not "recognize surrogacy" need to implement the adoption homestudy to be completed prior to the pregnancy/IVF implant.
Pray for both sides, we both hurt with pain.
Thank you for letting me tell my side.
My previous IP's also wrote a letter that would have been given to the judge , had he needed it. But he didnt. The judge warded the babies back to me after about 15 min in front of him. You assume why......
Laschell