If it makes any sense at all, the part I was saying was okay was that she was likely following what her contract likely stated she had to do-- find new parents. She wasn't bailing completely in that regard. It doesn't make up for the horrendous situation she has created, though. Hope that makes sense.
I agree with the rest of what you are saying, and was directing the more rant-ish parts of my post at others who have been complaining that I have only come back to disagree with people lately.