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    Default Looking for a specific TS in VA

    I hope I am not breaking any rules here, but I've come across a situation that I feel like needs to come to someone's attention (specifically the TS involved, if she doesn't already know about it).

    I had placed an ad on SMOs classifieds under adoption. We are a homestudy approved family and looking to adopt. We have also explored both GS and TS, which is how I've come to know these forums.

    Through my ad, I was contacted by a lady who has a baby due in June through a TS in Virginia. She is interested in "referring" me to her TS to adopt said baby because she cannot afford to pay the attorneys involved to complete the legal steps to parent this baby. By referring, she means she would like me to reimburse her for all of the expenses she paid to the TS (as a referral fee, so to speak) so she can try to do IVF herself.

    As far as I understand, she is not married and has no biological ties to the baby but does have a TS contract in place. It seems to me that she is trying to "sell" this baby. I do not know if the TS involved knows about the impending legal snafu, which is why I am posting this.

    The person who contacted me does have a sordid history here on SMO and quite the internet footprint. I am not concerned about her so much as the TS, and, of course, the baby who is due soon.

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    Yikes. I'd let Shannon know.

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    Scary!!!


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    Very scary. I hope Shannon can be notified and names posted so that the TS and others are made aware.

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    What state is the IM from?

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    If the baby is due 6/8 then I think I have the surrogate's first name for you, but I really hope that it is not that situation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by thesweetpickles View Post
    I hope I am not breaking any rules here, but I've come across a situation that I feel like needs to come to someone's attention (specifically the TS involved, if she doesn't already know about it).

    I had placed an ad on SMOs classifieds under adoption. We are a homestudy approved family and looking to adopt. We have also explored both GS and TS, which is how I've come to know these forums.

    Through my ad, I was contacted by a lady who has a baby due in June through a TS in Virginia. She is interested in "referring" me to her TS to adopt said baby because she cannot afford to pay the attorneys involved to complete the legal steps to parent this baby. By referring, she means she would like me to reimburse her for all of the expenses she paid to the TS (as a referral fee, so to speak) so she can try to do IVF herself.

    As far as I understand, she is not married and has no biological ties to the baby but does have a TS contract in place. It seems to me that she is trying to "sell" this baby. I do not know if the TS involved knows about the impending legal snafu, which is why I am posting this.

    The person who contacted me does have a sordid history here on SMO and quite the internet footprint. I am not concerned about her so much as the TS, and, of course, the baby who is due soon.
    If she can't afford the legal fees to finish what she has already started she can't afford to do IVF on her self. If she can afford to do IVF on her self with the money she has already paid the TS why wouldn't she have done that in the first place.

    This screams SCAM and RED FLAGS!!!!!

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    This screams "Arkansas" to me.
    Last edited by Newtothis; 05-15-2012 at 09:35 PM.

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    Amanda (JamesandAmanda) would be my guess as to who the IM is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Newtothis View Post
    This screams "Arkansas" to me.
    Hey, hey now. Keep it classy now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Newtothis View Post
    This screams "Arkansas" to me.
    I thought of one specific former IM when I read the post, and then again when you mentioned Arkansas. But then someone else mentioned the other IM. So now I'm REALLY curious!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Newtothis View Post
    This screams "Arkansas" to me.
    hahahahahahahahah


    Quote Originally Posted by Bristow View Post
    Amanda (JamesandAmanda) would be my guess as to who the IM is.
    Yes... That one came to mind, and a couple of others too.

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    So many IM's, with a sordid past that come to mind. Can the OP give us some more clues please?

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    It isn't me!!

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    OP here.

    IM did not give me a lot of personal info, but Google suggests that she is from NY originally but now living in NC, went by the name Mitchy1121 on here at one time, baby is due June 19 with a TS in VA. She said that she found out last minute that to adopt the baby back and parent, she will need to deal with ICPC (adoption between two states) and she cannot afford to pay an attorney in VA in addition to the attorney in her home state. She said she's been paying TS $1,100 a month plus flat rate purchases of maternity, meds, etc, and she would like to get reimbursed for those expenses under the guise of an adoption facilitation (which is illegal in many states).

    I totally agree that this is a shake down. IM is 42 with an AMH (egg reserve) of .016 (thank you, Google) --- highly unlikely that she's going to be doing IVF regardless of whether she can afford it or not. To the extent that the TS part is true though, maybe she just changed her mind and want to recoup her expenses. Maybe it is true that she simply cannot afford to pay the attorney in VA to complete the interstate adoption. I don't know. Regardless, it gives both surrogacy and adoption a bad rap and if there is a real TS involved, she's about to get snowed.

    One last scary detail --- I found a surro "agency" that IM is associated with called Elite Coastal Solutions.

    Again, my intent in posting is to warn any current or potential TS's about this person.

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    Ps. Sorry for the delay in replying! My posts are still going through mod approval.

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    Not Me eIther ! But I'm new and havent even got out of contract phase. This is first journey and I will be a GS.

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    There was obviously no research done prior to matching and getting pregnant. VA laws are tough for straight married couple and impossible for anyone else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dana7903 View Post
    Not Me eIther ! But I'm new and havent even got out of contract phase. This is first journey and I will be a GS.
    Your siggy is HUGE! Might want to get that fixed, or it might disappear.

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