There so many freaks out there!!!

[cdnrainbowdad]

The journey to my first was pretty smooth - a few bumps before finding my surrogate. However, in my journey to number 2, I would say there have been many more BIG bumps... OK, more like mountains - very discouraging. But for me, it was never discouraging enough to stop me from having a second journey... and I have some stories meant for the presses. Now, I have found a wonderful surrogate - it took a while to get to her but she was just there waiting for me to find her.

Yes, if I didn't find her, there would have been a natural point where I would have stopped - I have an age where I would stop having babies... more accurately, I believe in a certain age gap between myself and my kids that would not be beneficial to my kids.

Good luck to you both!

[Dabtweety2]

I was very fortunate that my IF's ( all three sets) used an agency to find me. It has been 9, 7+ and 4+ years since I delivered my surro kids for my IF's. To this day we are still family. I love them all dearly. Your match is out there just keep looking and trust your instincs when something seems off. You will find an amazing person to help you have your children.

[MattandBrad]

I'm glad you posted this! We just received an email from irenesb971@gmail.com that sounds very similar. She said she is working at an orphanage in Cameroon and has 2 kids named Max and Paul that are taken care of by her servant. This time she claimed to be from Ontario Canada which conveniently is where we live. She claimed she didn't want to be compensated for the surrogacy, just $5,000 for travel expenses.

[TNsurro]

I've received some strange ones myself now that I'm actively looking again. I've replied to a couple and the return emails are enough to make me want to close up shop and call it good. Honestly, if I wanted to get pregnant the "natural" way I'd go find someone I wanted to hook up with. Sheesh.

[Waiting 4 baby]

My husband and I received an email from this same person. The difference is she posted a pic of her supposed 5 month old baby girl and stated that sadly she has to put her up for adoption. She said that she was from Texas, but lived abroad in Cameroon with her benefactor. Supposedly she is 23 years old and had no parents because they died. The father of the baby for adoption was from Britain and disappeared when she was 2 months. All she wanted was $500 for a passport for her baby and a plane ticket to the states so we could adopt baby Jane. I knew something was up. It sounded too good to be true. Too many things threw up the "red flag." I'm glad there are posts on things like this so that people like us can avoid getting taken to the cleaners. Good luck in your endeavors.
Signed, waiting 4 baby

[WilsonMDM]

Keep the faith and follow your gut/instincts. It's no different in the world of adoption from our perspective. It's about the journey, the climb, the belief that it will all turn out ok in the end.

[2dadshopefully]

wow that is so terrible that not only you guys but seems like many others have had the same experience...why not read through the classifieds on here and reply to them rather than a surrogate email you?

that's what we did...even though there has been a few delays (not really bumps) we were very lucky in replying to one of the classifieds on here. i must admit it is all about trust and i have had times to stop and wonder myself...your pic of your family is beautiful and we hope to soon have that....good luck

[benjaminlspence]

We are having the same thing! As a same sex couple it seems difficult to find a surrogate who is matched with us.. :-(

Sick of scammers! xx

[Casslou1]

Hi Richard and Tom,

I am so sorry that you have had such a hard time finding a surrogate to work with. I am in the beginning stages of speaking to IPs and I'm not sure how to contact you but I would be happy to speak with you further.