Don't Hate on My Lining!

[jlm4]

I don't think she's a real person. She's trying too hard to get too many people sucked in... I think she's just funnin' with everyone at this point.

[cousinmommy]

I don't think she's a real person. She's trying too hard to get too many people sucked in... I think she's just funnin' with everyone at this point.

Why are you always taking away my toys?!?

[sillymommy]

Beautiful! Well said! I must admit. I am on SMO a lot and dont reply to or start many threads because I am afraid of "being jumped on". I still "lurk" and read A LOT of threads. I am a better person for it and I have a wonderful 8 week old surro-babe :-) I know there are a lot of new members who truely DON'T. have a clue and that shines a bad light on the ones who may have worded a question wrong.

Post away and don't worry about being jumped on. I have had tomato's thrown at me many times and I am just fine. If I post something wrong or something that other surrogates do not agree on I don't mind being called out on it, I would rather learn from it. You just get up wipe the tomato's off and keep on posting. You earn respect when you can take your tomato's with your big girl panties on.

[jlm4]

Why are you always taking away my toys?!?

Don't worry - there is always a new one to play with coming around the bend...

[surrolena]

Don't worry - there is always a new one to play with coming around the bend...

You're about to have Gina quoting Johnny again!

[fallaway]

So... what's the question now?? In 750 words or fewer.

[kat110]

So... what's the question now?? In 750 words or fewer.

No one has any idea at all!

[Oregonian]

Does your agency have a surrogacy mentor? A lot of these questions could be cleared up by having a phone conversation with someone that knows the process.

A phone conversation? Are you kidding? My head is spinning at the thought. It's like the people that you know can hear your kid screaming in the background and they just keep rambling...instead of offering to let you go.....

[cousinmommy]

You're about to have Gina quoting Johnny again!

I already said I heard him singing. If it wasn't this thread its in the other one.

[surrolena]

I already said I heard him singing. If it wasn't this thread its in the other one.

I must have missed that one.

[dahlia]

OMG. Someone who rambles worse than I do!

(OP I do mean that jokingly-- I ramble horribly myself and tend to delete a LOT before actually clicking submit.)

[mervl]

I don't think she's a real person. She's trying too hard to get too many people sucked in... I think she's just funnin' with everyone at this point.

From what I've gathered.. ehem, she is real. I think she's very wordy, and overthinks things, so I don't feel it appropriate to post what I've found (nothing damning, just run of the mill stuff online), nor her real first name, etc.

[Winter]

Yes, I am here. I have responses, but I'm taking time first. You won't be surprised to know this was the 2nd thread I had where some threw overly ripe 'tomato's' that I felt weren't right. I've lurked and read thread's where I've seen it go downhill, much like this, and worse. I also notice that when that happens, the main stance becomes ganging up on those OP's or specific posts in the OP's thread. When this happens, I don't see many posts that are different, it's like if other's see that the main consensus is to dish it out on the OP, the ones who don't agree with that behaviour are scared to reply.. at the very least hesitant to reply.

Before you argue this, I'm not saying everyone sits back, I'm saying hesitant to reply. I've read other threads where several people post they feel this way and it's obvious (in other threads) where the reply-ee feels strongly, but posts overly diplomatic to avoid they themselves getting censure.

No, this doesn't happen all the time. But it still means something when other's feel this way.


I'm ok taking the tomato's, I've taken some before this. And I take a hell of a frigign lot in life. This happens when your a person who takes a stand on many things in life. This is just the first time I finally threw them back. I don't take crap from people in life, but neither do I enjoy watching the damage I can fling back. I think MOST of, if not all of you in here do NOT deserve the treatment as individuals, but I do believe it was right to address how several of you behaved in those moments.

So you know, I couldn't edit the post to Diane, but I did get on and send a quick statemtn change to her, both are still first up if you wish to see them.

[jlm4]

From what I've gathered.. ehem, she is real. I think she's very wordy, and overthinks things, so I don't feel it appropriate to post what I've found (nothing damning, just run of the mill stuff online), nor her real first name, etc.

Okay, I will believe that she is real because I always trust your sleuthing abilities.

As an IM I feel the need to tell you, Winter, that I would not view you as a good match because you appear to be very scattered in your thought process and you also don't seem to know what you really want. If you talk as much as you write I think it would be impossible to have a discussion with you and most IPs are looking for a surrogate who is FAR more easy-going and than you appear to be.

My advice to you in to step back and possibly reconsider being a surrogate. Take your desire to be of service to a different venue.

Good luck to you!

[mervl]

Well, now I'm kinda ticked off. IMO, some people, like myself, spent a few minutes giving you our thoughts on things and were plenty polite (not brutally honest, which I see nothing wrong with necessarily, but we were POLITE and sugar coated it a bit more than maybe was needed even). Yet you skip over those posts, focus on, and just reply to the ones you view as negatives (or throwing overly ripe tomatoes, I think you said).

I won't even repeat what I said in my initial reply, since I wasted my time already.

But again, lots of luck to YOU.

[Ayre]

Well, now I'm kinda ticked off. IMO, some people, like myself, spent a few minutes giving you our thoughts on things and were plenty polite (not brutally honest, which I see nothing wrong with necessarily, but we were POLITE and sugar coated it a bit more than maybe was needed even). Yet you skip over those posts, focus on, and just reply to the ones you view as negatives (or throwing overly ripe tomatoes, I think you said).

I won't even repeat what I said in my initial reply, since I wasted my time already.

But again, lots of luck to YOU.

I don't have an opinion about this original topic because truthfully, I also wasn't able to get through the lengthy posts.

That being said I think MOST people would be a lot quicker to answer in defense to what is being spewed at them in the way of tomatoes than sugar coated chocolate covered posts. It's an automatic response and doesn't mean they aren't reading the rainbow farting unicorn posts but our brain automatically goes on the defense and we will explain and defend ourselves quicker than we will thank someone else for sunshine and flowers.

[sillymommy]

Here's the deal. You have not even been matched yet and are already worrying about meds and your uterus lining. You are making this much more complicated than it has to be. What happens when the box of meds actually arrives? Its a pretty big box full of meds, needles, etc. I think you might just have a nervous break down.

You need to have yourself phyc tested to see if you can even attempt to become a surrogate. I am not a mean person and honestly if you read my first post to you, I was supportive.

[RobsChica]

Okay, I will believe that she is real because I always trust your sleuthing abilities.

As an IM I feel the need to tell you, Winter, that I would not view you as a good match because you appear to be very scattered in your thought process and you also don't seem to know what you really want. If you talk as much as you write I think it would be impossible to have a discussion with you and most IPs are looking for a surrogate who is FAR more easy-going and than you appear to be.

My advice to you in to step back and possibly reconsider being a surrogate. Take your desire to be of service to a different venue.

Good luck to you!

I'm an IM and I agree w/ this message; I can't imagine your self-persecution complex within the confines of a surrogacy. And frankly I don't think you can control yourself enough to even appear reasonable.

[cousinmommy]

For you Lena and I feel like it is somewhat fitting.


When I hear that whistle blowin',
I hang my head and cry.

Then skip to this line............

But those people keep a-movin',
And that's what tortures me.

Those seem work here.

[surrolena]

Yes, I am here. I have responses, but I'm taking time first. You won't be surprised to know this was the 2nd thread I had where some threw overly ripe 'tomato's' that I felt weren't right. I've lurked and read thread's where I've seen it go downhill, much like this, and worse. I also notice that when that happens, the main stance becomes ganging up on those OP's or specific posts in the OP's thread. When this happens, I don't see many posts that are different, it's like if other's see that the main consensus is to dish it out on the OP, the ones who don't agree with that behaviour are scared to reply.. at the very least hesitant to reply.

Before you argue this, I'm not saying everyone sits back, I'm saying hesitant to reply. I've read other threads where several people post they feel this way and it's obvious (in other threads) where the reply-ee feels strongly, but posts overly diplomatic to avoid they themselves getting censure.

No, this doesn't happen all the time. But it still means something when other's feel this way.


I'm ok taking the tomato's, I've taken some before this. And I take a hell of a frigign lot in life. This happens when your a person who takes a stand on many things in life. This is just the first time I finally threw them back. I don't take crap from people in life, but neither do I enjoy watching the damage I can fling back. I think MOST of, if not all of you in here do NOT deserve the treatment as individuals, but I do believe it was right to address how several of you behaved in those moments.

So you know, I couldn't edit the post to Diane, but I did get on and send a quick statemtn change to her, both are still first up if you wish to see them.

MOST of the people have tried to HELP you. I have taken time out of my day to read every word you posted (and it was not easy) and post several responses trying to HELP you and I was not the only one. And yet all you can do is feel persecuted and apparently like some sort of martyr? No one can possibly help you because you don't LISTEN to everyone else which is so ironic because you put so many words of your own out there and get mad when people don't read every word or interpret it just how you are wanting them to. I am not ganging up, I was only trying to help but you obviously do not want that. So... good luck to you. I, personally, won't be able to help you with any future questions until you revisit the helpful responses on this thread and take them to heart.