In April of 2008 when we began the journey for me to become a surrogate, my husband and I were thoughful enough to sit down with the people in our lives that mattered the most to let them in on what we were doing. Immediately, my MIL disapproved. We had our talk with her, explained the procedures, the couple (at the time) our reasoning for wanting to do it - and she flat out was disgusted, and thought that they should "just adopt".
So, now FFW to today. Im 22 weeks. We havent spoken to my inlaws since AUGUST because my MIL has just been a childish ______ (insert your own choice word there) over some family issues - that are really none of her business to begin with.
Apparently someone on my FB is a spy for her, and reports back to her every time I take a $hit. Well, of course when I announced on FB on April Fools that I am pregnant, someone reported back to her. So now shes talking $hit behind my back (again/more) about me being pregnant. Im scarring my children.... she truly believes that because SHE disapproves, we shouldnt have gone ahead with it. Really?!!!
Now, Im getting ready to send her an email/letter/whatever addressing alot of the issues - and I will be dealing with the surrogacy as well. I mean, #1, I am THIRTY SIX YEARS OLD for Christs sake - my husband is 35 - we can make our own decisions, we're ADULTS! We werent asking for her PERMISSION! We were being courteous enough to tell her about our plans - because we didnt want her to think we were trying to have another baby of our own - which she would have disapproved of even MORE!!! And, WHO IS SHE to say that my IPs - or anyone else - should be the ones to save the world and adopt "all the children that need homes"?!!! Are you kidding?! I just dont get it.
I dont know how to deal with her!! I know Im not going to change her mind, obviously - but I need to make my point loud and clear to her. I suppose Im wasting my time to begin with, but its gotten to the point that something needs to be said!
For those of you who have dealt with this before, how did you handle it?