Sigh...Yet another attempt of my ex to try to cause trouble when things get too peaceful....
Recently I decided to take my opinion "out of the ring" over parenting time and the holiday schedule. He continually tries to manipulate things with the holidays and I told him a few weeks ago to get with the girls (12 and 13 year olds) and come up with whatever schedule works for them for the next 6 years and I will stick to whatever it is. I was just tired of him changing things at the last minute and blaming it on me. This way, I can't be (as usual) made out to be the "bad guy" when the holidays come up. I can just refer to the schedule (that I didn't make) and stay out of all his manipulations.
So today (it's his week with the kids), I get a text that he is bringing over a copy of the schedule they came up with... and also bringing a form for me to sign to change the girls' last name to his "because they want to". I simply texted that they could change it when they turn 18.
Keep in mind, there's so much back-story to this that it would take all week to explain. You have no idea how manipulative this guy is and the lengths he will go to try to control people with money. Basically all five of my children have my maiden name because my oldest is not biologically his (and he never adopted her because then we couldn't collect child support from her bio father...long story), he and I weren't married when the next two were born (again, because of money), and my younger two are my husbands (but we wanted all the siblings to have the same last name).
So he texted back to say that me signing would be the easy way, but he's going to file anyway and let the judge decide. Trust me, I want no drama with this guy and have just ignored his text but this brings me (finally :) ) to my question for you guys...
Can a father (with whom I share joint legal and physical custody) get children's last names changed without their mother's consent? I know he has manipulated them into saying they want his name, just as I could manipulated them into saying they want to keep their name (but I would never do that). Will a judge agree to that? If so, whatever, I don't want their name changed but I'm not going to waste valuable energy and money if I'm fighting a losing battle. But I thought the mother had to agree...no?
Thanks for reading! :sunshine:
(To haters only: Please only answer the question or stay out of the thread. I posted this in the support forum intentionally. I'm not interested in your personal opinions on my personal life or whether or not you agree with my choices in life...)