Hello Dr. Doyle,
I'm a 1st time surrogate for a gay male couple. We're doing at-home inseminations, fresh ejaculate in a syringe, and they don't want to know who is the biological father of their baby until the baby is born.
We've had 1 cycle of insems, perfect timing with fertile window and ovulation, and I did not conceive. Obviously, I understand it can take more than one try But I'm curious if their method might in fact be stifling their efforts.
They're mixing their sperm into one syringe. I've briefly read something regarding antibodies, but I can't find more specific information on this. Do you have any insight? Are their sperm killing each other? I thought maybe if we split the insems during the day (1 in the morning with one, and a second in the evening with the other), that would possibly not only hit ovulation timing better, but then a possible antibody problem might be avoided. Would splitting up insems still cause the same problems as mixing sperm if there is an antibody issue? I can't imagine how... Maury Povich makes a living on this unknown information...
Thanks for your help,
PS - how high should my hips be canted for best results during the insems?
PPS - I've also read lying down on my side, is that better than canted hips on a pillow? How do I know which side? What if I pick the wrong side? Can I tell which ovary the egg comes out of?
Thanks for your help Dr. Doyle
I think your idea of keeping the semen samples separate and doing two insemination is a very good one, in case one sample is affecting the other one, as well as to increase the odds of fertilization. After the insemination, you might also try putting a pillow under your hips for 30 minutes. It should not matter from which side you ovulate.
Good Luck !