1. I'd love for you to cite your references that 99% of birthmoms do NOT know the potential adoptive parents. That may have been true 30 years ago but certainly NOT today. With the advent of semi-open and open adoptions the parties get to know each other well before the child is born. As an adoptive mother or two who is very active in the adoption community, both on line and off, I'd have to say that many if not most adoptive situations now lean toward 'open'. - Susan

2. What is the proper meaning of Surrogracy? - Natalie in Caribbean

3. DO you have any bad experiences with the parent of the children, whom you have? If so can I hear about them? - Anonymous

4. What does AI surrogate mean? - Anonymous

5. A friend of mine has volunteered to be a surrogate for us. I was wondering what the differences between gestational and traditional surrogate are? - Anonymous in Dallas

6. Have you ever known of anyone who had an extremely hard time letting go of a baby via GS? Is the risk of one or more babies only involved with TS or is it just as great with GS? - Rachelle in FL

7. I am doing a research paper on surrogacy and was wondering if you would be willing to give any information on the subject. Thank You. - Tiffany in Michigan

8. I have met the woman of my dreams. We have been dating for over a year and a half and we plan to get married soon. my question stems from the fact that due to some medical problem (still not real sure about it since she doesn't like to talk about the details all that much) she had to have a partial hysterectomy. She still ovulates. I was wondering is it still possible for us to have our own (genetically) children? Is this a common form of Surrogacy? How much would a process like that cost? How risky would it be? What are the chances that surrogacy will result in more than one child (ie. twins)? Could we have her sister be our Surrogate mother? Sorry this is so long but I have so many questions and she doesn't really like to talk about this. - Mark in Nevada

9. Is there any time when you think that surrogating is wrong? - Anonymous

10. I am doing a report about surrogate mothers and i was wondering is there a percent of babies being born from surrogate mothers that have birth defects or does it just depend on the surrogate? - Christina in Greensboro,NC

11. What is the nurses role in surrogacy - Nancy in MD

12. Does anyone know of a group or someone to talk to about failed surrogacy? Everything we researched said that surrogates just don't keep the baby...but ours did. Our son was born almost four years ago and other than 3 days in the hospital with him we haven't been permitted to see him. We tried to reason with our surrogate but to know avail. People who knew her say she is a great actress and was only playing a role to please us, but we had known her for years. We are in court trying to fight for custody and at this point even visits and DNA testing. She fights every step we take. Needless to say this whole thing has caused so much sorrow to us and our families. We just don't know where to turn anymore. Any help out there or others in our shoes? - Chubmom

13. Why do you feel you donate your eggs or carry a child for other people to parent? Why would you want to put your body through the trauma of having children for someone else? I know that these people love the children, but aren't you afraid that one might become an abuser or even worse?

14. My problem is, as i have short cervix, i can not carry my preganancy more than 21-22 weeks. I had to abort two preganancy due to that. It means that i have a healthy egg but can not carry my preganancy. And i would like to clarify one thing, we don't have much money. So, if i donate my egg to someone who needs egg and she is having stong uters and carry two eggs at a time. one for me and one for her. I don't want any thing for that egg donation. But in the exchange i want one baby. Could u please suggest me what should i do and am i right or wrong regarding this. Please advise me. Thanks. - JMJ in NJ

15. My partner and I are lesbians. I have had a hysterectomy. We would like information on me using one of my eggs (overies were kept and are working), implanting into partner and using a sperm donor. Have you heard of this? How expensive are we talking? How successful has it been? Where should I start my information gathering? - Woodsie in Oregon

16. Can you please tell me where to begin accessing the surrogacy laws for Montana? I'm having difficulty and as far as I can tell, there are not any. - Chris

17. i am a 27 with 3 beautiful children who after haveing the third child i had my tubes tied (thinking that i would stay with the man who fathered my children)i am with a great man (4 years now)we were woundering if we could either dontae my eggs or become a surrogate to get my tubes untied or is this even possiable - Betty in Southern CA

18. do all religions, except this form of family planning? - Katie in Australia

19. Why and how would anyone EVER want to give up their bodies and go through all that pain and heart ache only to have the child they developed in thier own body taken away from them the minute after they are born? That is beyond me. - Yenni in Courtenay, BC Canada

20. What is a surrogate mother? --Samantha in Las Vegas

21. What would you do if ,God forbid,your surrogate does try and keep the child? Was that something you worried about,or are worried about ,just a little? - Delores

22. Can you send me any information on surrogacy, and adoption, such as procedure, cost, statistics, laws, and other information would be very helpful. - Lori

23. Is it just me?(male) But has a there been surrogates considered the pregnancy being done by natural means? Everything else being handled legally and medically the same way as forementioned here. What law, federal or state would considered this illegal on some basis? Also, what are any limitations/advantages by VA medical benefits in the current ways you are going through with this? And>> Has there been any consideration or approach in selective DNA/Geneology in by either doctors or IP's. - Anonymous in CA

24. I am doing a project at school and I need to know when and where the first surrogacy baby was born. - Veg in WA

25. What about the psychological consequences and implications involved of the surrogate child, and all the family members invloved? - Anonymous in the U.K.

26. I'm thinking of being a GS Surrogate for my half-sister. She lives in MA and I live in TX. How big a factor is distance? What sort of complications might this cause us? - Heather in TX

27. I'm doing a paper in school on Surrogate Mothers and I would like to have your ideas on the good and bad things of being a Surrogate. - Anonymous in Scott County, VA

28. I am going to be a gestational surrogate for my sister with total excitement and joy. My husband is having a harder time with the decision. He thinks emotionally it will be very difficult. I don't, I have two wonderful children of my own. She's not only my sister but my twin. How can I help him? Did you get pregnant the first cycle of IVF? I don't find many sister situations on the net. - Marcy in Salem, OR

29. What is the percentage of surrogates that end up keeping the baby? - Melissa in CA

30. We are in Massachusetts and would appreciate any suggestions on how to connect with other parents through surrogacy in New England or local. - Linda S. in Massachusetts

31. Could you please define the AI/GS surrogate. my wife and I are just starting to look in to surrogates and don't know much about it. - Bill in So. MD

32. Why do you think surrogacy is/ not ethical? What do you think about surrogate mothers changing their minds (either after or during pregnancy) and wanting to keep the baby? Should this be legal? - Jade

33. What are the advantages/disadvantages of being an GS surrogate as opposed to being a AI surrogate? - Susan in FL

34. How did the hospital respond to you as a new parent, and not the birth parent? Did you have any problems with bonding? Did the AI have a lot of contact with baby while in the hospital? How did you handle all of the hospital treatment? - Kristy

35. I am a student in California and I am writing a paper on surrogate parenting. Could you please tell me if you feel that you're providing a service to society? Have you or anyone that you have known encountered any legal problems regarding surrogate parenting? - Carrie and Jamilha in CA

36. I want to know what troubles you faced. What was it like after you had to give the baby up? And did you surrogate for someone you know, or a stranger....I am thinking about doing this for my sister in law. - Jaylene in IA