Surrogacy and Egg Donation Q and A


Surrogate Mothers Online Q & A
    • Q & A: Emotional Issues - Egg Donation

    Topics may include the IM's feelings about not being the biological mother of her child, the IM's and ED's feelings regarding anonymity, etc.

    1. What was the recovery stage like after the days of injections and the egg retrieval process? I soon will be an egg donor through CHR and I would like to inquire information from someone who has shared the experience. Also, were there any regrets? I ask because a few women that I've discussed this with feel if they were to be an egg donor they would feel incomplete knowing that a child which is biologically half theirs has no further connection with them in life outside of DNA. - Vale

    2. I have never donated eggs before. But I do want to help others. However my husband is apprehensive. Would it be wise to go on?

    3. I am seriously thinking about donating an egg to my friend, my only concern is the emotional issue, how may I feel when the baby is born? I want to give her this gift. I do not think I would feel any regrets. I have 2 beautiful children myself, happily married, how did you know you were sure that this was the right thing to do? - Anonymous in FL

    4. What do you do if you are donating anonymously and would just like some idea who will be getting your eggs, not alot of info just enough to make you feel more at ease, like how long they have been trying, what they are like together and individually, etc. I just wish now I had had that information during the process, the support of that committment would have ben very helpful during the ups and downs of meds. My retrieval is tomorrow at 10, wish me luck! - Bess in VA

    5. What is your emotional attachment to the child you have helped to create? Is it easier, emotionally to be a surrogate mother or to donate an egg? - Julie

    Unless stated otherwise, all responses in the SMO Q&A are courtesy of one or more of the following hosts:
    • Sherry - Experienced gestational surrogate currently working on her 2nd surrogacy arrangement
    • Linda - New Mommy to twins born via gestational surrogacy and egg donation
    • Jennifer S. - Experienced AI surrogate
    • Lynn - New Mommy to a daughter born via traditional surrogacy
    • Tracie - 5 time egg donor (triplets, 2 sets of twins and 2 singletons) and 3 time surrogate (2-AI, 1-IVF).
    • Lisa - Experienced egg donor and previous gestational surrogate currently working on her 2nd surrogacy arrangement (Lisa was our former ED host, prior to July 1999.)
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