Surrogacy and Egg Donation Q and A


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    • Q & A: Emotional Issues - Surrogacy

    Topics may include SM's feelings about parting with the baby after the birth, IM's feelings regarding not being able to carry the baby, etc

    1. I am wondering why there is not more information on surrogates. I am six months along and I wish there was a list of question a new person going into this could ask. The parents and agency have plenty of question however I did not know about a lot of problems that could arise from this. example the parents to be are major worry worts, I have three of my own children and they still don't trust anything I do from my daily activities to what I eat. How can I deal with this I have three months left and it is killing me. I would also like to be able to speak with someone who knows how it is after the baby goes I do not know of anyone and everyone I speek to say I will hurt so bad. I am just now starting to worry about that. I was hoping I would have more positive people in that area and so far I am the only one who trys to see the positive in it. - Heidi in Eureka, CA

    2. I am writing a arguementative paper for a college research class. I'd like to know how you feel about giving up a child without really knowing the people who will parent your child. - Charity

    3. How does it make you feel to know that the child is not physically yours and some one else's. And would you hold it against the carrier if she decided to keep the child? - Claire in tasmanian, australia

    4. Do you think you should have the right to claim the child you bring to term as your own? -Anonymous

    5. Did you ever feel some kind of guilt or regret on giving up the child you gave birth to? - Karina C.

    6. Hi, My name is Lisa. I have been thinking about being a surrogate mom for a year and a half. I have no children of my own and am in a lesbian relationship at this time. I have several friends who cannot have children and I would love to help them. Everyone tells me I won't be able to give up the child, but I think that is more about them than me. How was that decision for you and how did you decide to take the step forward to become a surrogate mom? - Lisa

    7. Have you ever had any doubts about giving the baby up after it is born? How did the hospital handle the situation? Did you have a lot of interaction with the baby in the hospital? Was the hospital good to the new parents? How long were you in the hospital? - Kristy in San Diego, CA

    Unless stated otherwise, all responses in the SMO Q&A are courtesy of one or more of the following hosts:
    • Sherry - Experienced gestational surrogate currently working on her 2nd surrogacy arrangement
    • Linda - New Mommy to twins born via gestational surrogacy and egg donation
    • Jennifer S. - Experienced AI surrogate
    • Lynn - New Mommy to a daughter born via traditional surrogacy
    • Tracie - 5 time egg donor (triplets, 2 sets of twins and 2 singletons) and 3 time surrogate (2-AI, 1-IVF).
    • Lisa - Experienced egg donor and previous gestational surrogate currently working on her 2nd surrogacy arrangement (Lisa was our former ED host, prior to July 1999.)
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