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Surrogacy and Egg Donation Q and A


Surrogate Mothers Online Q & A
  • Q & A: Emotional Issues - Surrogacy

    Topics may include SM's feelings about parting with the baby after the birth, IM's feelings regarding not being able to carry the baby, etc

    6. Hi, My name is Lisa. I have been thinking about being a surrogate mom for a year and a half. I have no children of my own and am in a lesbian relationship at this time. I have several friends who cannot have children and I would love to help them. Everyone tells me I won't be able to give up the child, but I think that is more about them than me. How was that decision for you and how did you decide to take the step forward to become a surrogate mom? - Lisa - Top

    Dear Lisa,

    Hello! I know of three traditional surrogates who have done surrogacies and haven't had children. I think you just have to know within yourself if you want to do it. I have a firm belief that genetics don't make a parent. That it's about love and time. And I have never done that for my surrogate daughter. And I never will. That is what doesn't make me her mother.

    Good Luck! Feel free to write anytime.

    -Jennifer - Updated: February 13, 2000


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    • Tracie - 5 time egg donor (triplets, 2 sets of twins and 2 singletons) and 3 time surrogate (2-AI, 1-IVF).
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